“Many people falsely assume that women who have less sex have ‘tighter’ vaginas, and women who have more sex have ‘looser’ vaginas- but this is just a complete misconception,” says women’s health specialist Jennifer Wider, M.D. “The muscles in your vagina are elastic hence contract and go back to their normal shape after sexual intercourse and also after child birth.”
“The other time your vagina changes is as you get older. As women age, their hormone levels drop, which means the vaginal walls thin out and become less elastic, so the muscles may get looser. The good news is that the tone of the muscles can be improved by kegel exercises, no matter the age of the woman,” says Wider.
Truth is, taking a break from sex doesn’t tighten the vagina. Well, I know some ladies will completely disagree with this. It’s facts it’s not just my opinion. Some times we take a break from sex because of many reasons; we have probably been busy with work/school/life, maybe you just ended a relationship and you want to breathe. You start hanging out with the squad who swear by the slogan men are trash! But hey, are they? So now you give yourself a 3 months period of not having sex because you think your vagina will tighten, and the next man who’ll have it will worship the floor you walk on!
See, when you have sex after a long period and you feel as though it’s tight, what happens is that you are nervous or probably not aurosed enough or not comfortable. Just take your time make sure your partner employs foreplay, you can even use lube. Wait until your muscles are relaxed enough to slide anything inside. Soo, if it feels like your vagina is tight during sex, it’s definitely not because you recently went through a dryspell.
Let’s backtrack to the kegel exercises. One day I’m at work and you know the normal lunch time stories, catching up on office gossip and what not. So I happened to be with my immediate boss who’s a pretty young lady in her early 30s with two kids. I can’t remember exactly how our conversation got to tutorials on how to perform kegel exercises. What she does is, when she’s seated mostly at work, she tries to squeeze in her vaginal muscles such that she’s holding them tight, counts to 5, releases and does it frequently about 10 to 15 times.
Another way you can do kegel exercise, is when you’re going to pee. Don’t just splash it out like a pressure pipe. Hold it in and let it out little by little rather drop by drop. That way you’re exercising your muscles. Kegel exercises is applicable to both men and women. Men ofcourse do it differently, I will have to consult a medic on this topic for proper information.
I hope this was helpful. Let me know what you think, ask any questions you have. All suggestions are welcome!
Here’s my previous post if you didn’t get to read it! https://cexuel.health.blog/2020/07/26/pudesh-basics/
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